How to achieve eternal happiness and joy in life

How to achieve eternal happiness and joy in life
Er. Satnam Singh Sidhu BC B.E. M.E.

Work Hard.                 Kirat Karro
Share Earnings          Vand shakko.   
Recite God's Name.  Naam Jappo.   

Every Punjabi and especially Sikhs believe in this basic principle of Sikhism. And practice to their own ability.

No Smoking
No Drugs
No Alcohol

Every Punjabi and especially Sikhs believe in this basic principle of Sikhism. The least smokers were found in Punjab compared to rest of India during 90s. All buses and trains were free of smoke in Punjab. Moment you leave Punjab and entered Haryana, Haryana, Rajasthan, Delhi, J&K you saw chain smokers in buses. I am not sure about the situation of West Punjab and Sindh in Pakistan. I do know middle east people refrain from drinking but smoke heavily. I am not aware about middle east women whether they smoke or not. In western culture both smoke and drink are quite common and is considered a personal choice for both males and females.

Till date nobody can be seen smoking in public. It is culture of Punjab. This culture came from Khalsa day (April 13th 1699) when Guru Gobind Singh converted Sikhs into Khalsa. Guru Gobind Singh gave real democratic system to people of Punjab and rest of world. It gave special identity to women. A Sikh woman last name was converted from father's name or husband's name to her own name called KAUR. As most Punjabi names are unisex in Sikhs and even in Hindus that is why Sikh woman was given Kaur from Kumari and Sikh man was given Singh from Kumar. In certain parts of India Singh is also used by Rajasthan Rajpoots. But two Singh's have totally different and distinct.

Sikh Singh and Kaur stands for respect for gender. It stands for courage and to stand against tyranny. It is power to withhold the integrity of humanity against tyranny of political rulers and religious fanatics. It is symbol of love to humanity. It is symbol of support for people in need of help regardless for basic needs and basic rights (fundamental). It is symbol of self pride and ability to fight back against tyrants in all conditions without compromise of freedom of religion, freedom of speech, freedom of movement. It is symbol of self respect, self esteem, self freedom and freedom of all. Sikhs when baptised to Singh's and Kaur's they never looked back and fought back with tyrants rulers with full spirit and continue to do so. They love humanity, they love freedom of self and others, they love freedom of belief and religion, they love democracy and contribute to freedom of humanity.

They believe hard work,
sharing their earnings with needy and always keep One God's Name in their conscience.

(The One God who is Father of all humanity, care taker of all humanity and who put food on table of every human being regardless of his/her deeds. Yet He is fair to judge every action of human beings and fullfill their desires as per their own deeds.)

Guru Nanak taughts Sikhs the above three principles and which has become part of Punjabi culture and especially Sikh culture.

Guru Nanak taughts Sikhs one more basic principle of respect to woman. Woman has given birth to all human beings regardless whether they turn into beggers or Kings. So a man who feel superior to woman must keep in mind that you are born out of mother's womb and that mother is a female. So regardless how high you rise in life you are always in debt to mother (woman) for your birth, Father for your conception and God for putting conscience in you.

Guru Nanak also taught Sikhs that when it comes to compare or judge yourself with others, follow the following rule:

Step 1: Consider you are not as good as others and
Step 2: No one is as bad as you.

It may seems a paradoxical principle of Guru Nanak and negative to those who advocate Positive Thinking.

But if we analyse it deep it is simply teaching us one basic principle:

When you don't like something or someone:
Step 1: then only thing you should do is to change yourself in perception and conception
Step 2: think no one is wrong and bad and focus on their positive attributes, traits, qualities.

Why?
A Criticising others is very easy and
     criticising self is difficult.
B Appreciating others is very hard
   and self appreciating (self priasing)
   is very easy.
C Focus on positives of others and
    negatives of yours.
D This was you remain positive to
    bring change in yourself, others,
    community, society, nation, world
    and yet keep pushing your
    positives up by focusing on your
    negatives.
E  So counts positives of others and
    negatives of yours to make place
    for more positives in your own
    self.
F. Remember man you are born out
    of woman so respect women
    always

This is basic psychology taught by Guru Nanak to every Sikh. Now you may be thinking, why Sikhs only and why not everyone. Well when you look at someone as a Sikh, he/she really not a Sikh but a Singh or a Kaur. Because every human being is a Sikh as per Guru Nanak's definition. Because Sikh is nothing but student.

In Sikhism no one is born Sikh. One becomes Sikh if he/she believes in Guru Granth Sahib (Guru Nanak) and may practice the following:

A Learn psychology of Guru Nanak to widen his/her vision about self, others, humanity, God (Har), Guru (teacher), Sikh (student)

B Practice psychology of Guru Nanak because it is a applied psychology with complete know how.

C Be proud of being Sikh and either become true Hindu, true Muslim, True Christian, True Singh or Kaur,  and True Human, True Environmentalist, True Student of True Guru and One True God of all.

D Be proud of being Sikh and become Khalsa which is True Democrat, True Human, True Environmentalist, True Student of True Guru and One True God of all.

Guru Nanak never bothered whether someone is Hindu, Muslim, Buddhist, Jainist, Jewish or Christian but whether he/she is real and true to God in every action and thought. Because we all are part of God who gets close or away from God by our own deeds. Our own actions and thoughts  either take us away or close to God.

Those of us who are not happy and joyful about life, ourself and others are clearly not close to God and remain unhappy regardless of worldly success and are in constant pursuit of happiness which is only attained by going close to God and not away as per Guru Nanak.

So stop, calm down, slow down, open your mind, rethink about your actions, thoughts and plans regarding achieving eternal happiness and joy. Take help of Guru Nanak to reach your target, goal and destination. Guru Nanak has no physical appearance and only way could be realised is through his philosophy. READ GURU NANAK'S PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE, YOU AND GOD THROUGH HIS PHILOSOPHY. IT IS WRITTEN IN SHRI GURU GRANTH SAHIB FOR YOUR REFERENCE. WELCOME TO WORLD OF ETERNAL HAPPINESS AND JOY.

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